Perhaps my second book should be something along the above title and subject. I am sure many women would say I well, yes, that part of redeeming sexuality would mean that men would not, in their vulnerability but nevertheless masculine impulses, seek out false intimacy when want they need and are made for is authentic closeness with the other sex. Its no secret (although it is a secret activity) that many men struggle with pornography--including men who want to be faithful to their spouses. The most popular approach even in the church, is to counter pornography through fear, rules and behavior modification. An interesting thing happened to me and pornography a few years ago.