It was late summer, 2002. One of my online cross-gender friendships was becoming more than just an "acquaintance" kind of relationship. This was before I knew any cross-gender friendship material existed. Before I knew there were any stories of cross-gender friendship in church history. I don't remember how I came across this book but I stumbled upon Biblical Foundations for Small Group Ministry by Gareth Weldon Icenogle in the bowels of the basement in Trinity Evangelical Divinity Library. I can't remember what drew me to this book because I wasn't interested in reading about small groups at the time. Anyway, this text may have been the first one to steer my thinking to freedom, wholeness, and oneness in cross-gender friendships. As you will see, he's not talking about paired cgf's (small group is his focus) but I began to ask myself, why not for cross-gender friendship, too??? I was praying through some issues of sexuality with my friend.