"The great sex charade is the popular celebration in the media and in our society and culture at large of sexuality as the major indicator of intimacy between persons. Our culture is rife with the attention-getting power of sexuality, and we are saturated with the notion that sexual attractiveness is the key to interpersonal success and true happiness. But we do not ask what is at the core of interpersonal success. Culturally co-opted sexuality is a charade, a game designed to conceal the underlying reality it suggests. It is a deceitful rampant pretense to satisfy something in us that is far more profound, namely, the longing for an intimacy that ultimately ties us into the life of God."
He goes on to say that the "intimacy in the Spirit of Christ not only runs deeper than any human "intimacies" but hs the power to redefine them all in terms of one's own in-depth relation to God. The conclusion to be drawn from this is that spiritual intimacy is definitive of all other versions of "intimacy," including sexual claims to such closeness. The sex charade appears and thrives in church life as in the world because we do not know how nor do we have the theological nerve to investigate the depth of spiritual intimacy that we want in all our leaders and fellow members in the koinonia. Such spiritual intimacy is the most truly explosive and most neglected force in the life and death of our church communities."