My beloved wife, companion, lover, partner, and best friend of 31 years
Here we are celebrating 31 years!!!
Can you believe it? I wish I could tell the world what an amazing wife, partner, companion, and friend you are. Whatever words I could put together, they wouldn't be able to convey the great gift you have been to me for these 31 years. I loved your passionate love for Jesus 31 years ago. I've seen that love up close now for three decades and there are no words for how you have again and again inpsired me to love Jesus more and trust him.
Of course, in our journey to follow Christ, we came upon two roads which diverged and we took the one less traveled and that has made all the difference in the world. I've known your strength. You're a woman with great courage and strength. I admired you when you gave up a promising professional career in order to be a stay at home mother. I saw you pour your heart and soul into Jonathan for all of his childhood. You loved him with a fierce love and you still love him with a fierce love.
Years later, when it became evident the Lord was calling me to write a provocative book on cross-gender friendship you became my strongest advocate and supporter. I was able to deepen my friendships with women because you stood with me and behind me with a cherished trust.
As the Lord has led me to explore intimate cross-gender friendship with very few role models or scripts you have been my partner cheering me on where others were afraid to go. It was your enthusiastic trust in me which inspired me to explore the depths of deep love and trust in cross-gender friendship. When I began exploring the possibility of Sacred Friendship Gathering, it was your support and trust which inspired me. When we started about talking about the 12 day road trip with Jennifer O. this past summer, it was because of your trust and support which allowed me to enjoy Jennifer and our trip with the fullness of sacred blessing.
All this has strengthened our trust and love for each other. Of course, some of my critics tell us this is not supposed to work this way. It's supposed to undermine marriage. My ongoing shared intimacy in my friendships with Jennifer O., Susanne Osborne and others has created an upward spiral of trust, partnership, companionship, and love between us. We both see the deep beauty, truth, and glory of sharing a fierce and passionate love for our closest friends knowing such love can strengthen and stir our love for each other.
I cannot even begin to tell you what it means to share my deep delight in Jennifer and Susanne with your full acceptance, unwavering trust, and sweet support. You have been so tender with me and for them when I have shared their struggles with you. You have also expressed great joy when I have shared their joy. It's been so beautiful to see your passionate love for my closest friends. You know you are my best friend. Yet you know the glory of a spouse married to their best friend but enjoying best friends beyond marriage.
In my wildest imagination, I could not have conceived of this.
No turning back! Looking forward to the next year with you!
You are the wind beneath my wings!
I so celebrate you and our marriage. I glory in Christ because of you and your love.