My beloved wife, companion, lover, partner, and best friend of 31 years
Here we are celebrating 31 years!!!
Can you believe it? I wish I could
tell the world what an amazing wife, partner, companion, and friend you are.
Whatever words I could put together, they wouldn't be able to convey the great
gift you have been to me for these 31 years. I loved your passionate love for
Jesus 31 years ago. I've seen that love up close now for three decades and there
are no words for how you have again and again inpsired me to love Jesus more and
Of course, in our journey to follow Christ, we came upon two roads which
diverged and we took the one less traveled and that has made all the difference
in the world. I've known your strength. You're a woman with great courage and
strength. I admired you when you gave up a promising professional career in
order to be a stay at home mother. I saw you pour your heart and soul into
Jonathan for all of his childhood. You loved him with a fierce love and you
still love him with a fierce love.
Years later, when it became evident the Lord was calling me to write a
provocative book on cross-gender friendship you became my strongest advocate and
supporter. I was able to deepen my friendships with women because you stood with
me and behind me with a cherished trust.
As the Lord has led me to explore intimate cross-gender friendship with
very few role models or scripts you have been my partner cheering me on where
others were afraid to go. It was your enthusiastic trust in me which inspired me
to explore the depths of deep love and trust in cross-gender friendship. When I
began exploring the possibility of Sacred Friendship Gathering, it was your
support and trust which inspired me. When we started about talking about the 12
day road trip with Jennifer Ould this past summer, it was because of your
trust and support which allowed me to enjoy Jennifer and our trip with the
fullness of sacred blessing.
All this has strengthened our trust and love for each other. Of course,
some of my critics tell us this is not supposed to work this way. It's supposed
to undermine marriage. My ongoing shared intimacy in my friendships with
Jennifer Ould, Susanne Osborne and others has created an upward spiral of trust,
partnership, companionship, and love between us. We both see the deep beauty,
truth, and glory of sharing a fierce and passionate love for our closest friends
knowing such love can strengthen and stir our love for each other.
I cannot even
begin to tell you what it means to share my deep delight in Jennifer and Susanne
with your full acceptance, unwavering trust, and sweet support. You have been so
tender with me and for them when I have shared their struggles with you. You
have also expressed great joy when I have shared their joy. It's been so
beautiful to see your passionate love for my closest friends. You know you are
my best friend. Yet you know the glory of a spouse married to their best friend
but enjoying best friends beyond marriage.
In my wildest imagination, I could not have conceived of this.
No turning back! Looking forward to the next year with you!
You are the wind beneath my wings!
I so celebrate you and our marriage. I glory in Christ because of you and