Cristina Traina is at it again! She’s written another chapter in a pastoral ethics book expanding on what the virtue of erotic attunement looks like in pastoral relationships. Ponder what she says in this new book about eros and pastoral relationships:
To this end, we must explore eros’s pastoral virtues… Because eros is attracted to the good in the beloved, it loves because of, not in spite of, the beloved’s particular qualities. It not only appreciates them rationally, but delights in them, and that delight is an irreplaceable gift to the beloved. The direct, immediate gift of erotic delight is indispensable for pastoral relationships.”
I don’t make anybody uncomfortable when I say experience erotic delight in my relationship with my wife. However, when I say that I’ve experienced erotic delight toward my female friends, I know for some, sheer discomfort rises! Many Christians still conflate the meaning of eros with sexual desire and hence the discomfort. It is not my intention to make anyone squirm.