There were a couple of times I was moved to tears as I watched the movie, Les Misérables. There is one scene that tugs on the heartstrings. It’s almost impossible not to shed compassionate tears for the character, Éponine. She is a friend of Marius but she has unrequited longings for him. The moment is when Marius has an instant connection with Cosette and falls in love with her. Éponine witnesses that event and we see the face of a heartbroken pursuer and dreamer.
I had tears in my eyes.
We have all experienced unrequited longings.
Such scenes stir memories do they not? And for me, it also touched my heart for unreciprocated longings in friendship. Several years back I came to a place where I committed myself to explore everything I could about cross-sex friendship no matter where it took me. For me it became a passion to read everything about friendship—not just cross-sex friendship—I could get my hands on.
In our Freudian world both music and movie have depicted in song and scene the stories of unfulfilled romantic longings and feelings. One individual has a deepening desire to see a relationship flourish and yet they fail to find a mutual connection toward deepening intimacy. In the Freudian paradigm this is all about romantic longing for that endless love. As a baby boomer, I almost want to start crooning an old Lionel Ritchie song, “You will always be, my endless love.”