Is it possible to explore face to face friendship beyond sexual attraction? Can we enter into an authentic, deeply meaningful, life-giving, intimate friendship with our friend after sexual attraction? Or do we risk dire circumstances? Do we face pressure to conform to the chronic anxieties of those surrounding us?
To explore the meaning of sexual attraction within friendship is a journey in self-differentiation. Is SA mere lust? It is a promiscuous-tainted attraction? Is it sexual temptation? Does it translate into some black-and-white dynamic that you want to sleep with your friend? Or is it a gift from God? If we interpret erotic attraction as a gift from God which happens to us—a gift that we can process as something beautiful, as something which opens the door to deeper self-understanding, and possible deeper differentiation and connectedness—it’s the difference between day and night than a promiscuous-tainted attraction.
This is a watershed point. There is no monolithic Christian or "biblical" view on sexual attraction. Here is a brief survey of a number of diverse perspectives on sexual attraction.