To talk about participating in revolutionary relationships may come across as foolhardy or presumptuous. But when one is fully aware one is seeking relationship that has been unrecognized by centuries of patriarchy then audacity—a spiritual boldness comes with the territory of cross-sex friendship.
I was reminded of this recently when I read complementarian Joshua Jones’ new book, Can Christian Men and Women be Friends? I gave it a high five a couple of months ago. In this post, I want to clearly articulate the revolutionary nature of cross-sex friendship in which it appears my friend Joshua doesn’t quite fully grasp.
In his book, he asks the question, “How does this issue of friendship relate to the current Complementarian and Egalitarian debates of gender in church leadership and family roles?” He responds with, “Neither the Egalitarian nor the Complementarian theological camps have really made this an issue. No one has!”
Jones’ observation echoes something similar I heard from a well-known (at least in my circles) evangelical theologian/missional pastor when he first sat across from me at a table and listened to me talk about cross-sex friendship.
Friendship between men and women he said, did not impact the complementarian-egalitarian debate.